A married woman will go to her parent’s home with her husband for a short visit, after exchanging pleasantries, everyone will start running around to make sure their son in-law is comfortable.
He will be well fed, well entertained and well taken care of. No one expects him to lift a finger to do anything, because he is a special guest, their daughter’s husband.
Turn the table…
A married man goes to his parent’s home with his wife for a short visit, immediately after exchanging pleasantries, everyone will start looking at their son’s wife with corner eye to see if she’ll go to the kitchen and join in cooking.
She will sometimes be expected to take over the cooking and serve everyone, with a broad smile on her face. After meal, they will be watching her to see if she will clear the table, wash the plates and clean the kitchen.
No one gives her any special treatment like the special guest she is. After all who is she? An ordinary married woman! If she doesn’t do any of the chores expected of her, her in-law will start ‘beefing’ her and may become hostile towards her.
Her sisters in-law will start grumbling and sometimes become outright rude to her. She will be called for a meeting, her home training will be questioned and her wife material length measured.
She will be berated, called lazy, manner less and all sorts of derogatory names. Her husband will even be chastised for not controlling and disciplining his wife enough.
She may most likely leave her in-law’s home sad, physically and emotionally drained.
What was meant to be a short vacation or visit eventually turns out to be hard labour filled with misery, tears and regrets.
My annoyance is that it’s always women making life uncomfortable and miserable for their fellow women in cases like this.
It’s always women putting unnecessary pressure on their fellow women.
It’s always women who are the gatekeepers of patriarchy……
Can’t a woman visit her in-laws and be treated sweetly?? Let love lead women love yourself.